I mentioned the other day that I was going to try and level my priest without using the dungeon finder, but doing it the old fashioned way – by making friends.
Well, so far it ain’t going that well. First of all, there aren’t that many players around. Second of all, the way I made friends in the past was by asking players to help me with a quest. But the fact of the matter is that the game has been nerfed so much that I don’t need to ask for any help. I could pretend to need help, but that’s rather pointless as any decent player of whom I would like to be my friend will rightfully come to the conclusion that I am a moron for not being able to complete such and such quest on my own. So until I find a hard quest, this avenue seems closed to me.
How about just walking up to players and saying hello? Well, you try and do that and see where it gets you. Here is a rough look at how my last effort went:
Me: Hi, are you a new player or is this an alt for you? (I am really feeling like a moron already here).
Other Person: Why do you want to know this?
Me: I’m looking for some players to add to my friends list and level with.
[This player is ignoring you]
It’s not going well at all. You don’t make friends with people by walking up to them and saying, ‘do you want to be my friend?’ while drooling out the side of your mouth. You make friends by having shared experiences and mutually realising that each of you would like to play further with the other player. This way of making friends is very easy:
“Great run, do you mind if I add you to my friends list?”
“No problem, I’ll add you too.”
And then the next time you log in, they whisper you and you’re off running something else together. This works, this is socially acceptable. Stalking around Silverpine Forest and accosting other players is not, and it will quickly get you a reputation for being a freak of fucking nature. I could make it easy for myself by cheating and macroing something like this:
“Hi, I’m doing a project to see if you can run instances in WoW now without using the dungeon finder. I’m looking for players to add to my friends list that I can call on to do dungeon runs. Would you like to be a part of this?”
That might work, but I’m not sure how I woud react if somebody came up to me and did this.
Last week Tobold had a post expounding the virtues of a game in beta called Mytheon. I decided to give it a shot, downloaded it, and realised after about 30 seconds that I hated it, (you can’t adjust the view around your toon which did my head in, and the combat system involves you putting up some form of stone and then doing nothing, which is about as exciting as chicks from Brisbane). But in the hour of gameplay that I managed to endure, what I did notice was the social aspect. Somebody asked in general chat if anyone could help them kill such and such. They immediately got a few helpful offers. Then other people suggested doing it together and then going and also killing that other bigger thingy. And they all did. And I was left looking at the screen with a vague feeling of sadness. Because this was how WoW used to be.
But it’s not anymore.
August 9, 2010 at 9:00 am
Actually your macro is NOT cheating. You can also add “I’m an experienced player and this holy priest is decked in heirlooms, I can keep any dungeon party up unless they do something REALLY stupid”. This way you offer something better than the LFD: a good healer. While grouping you is slower than LFD, wiping because the healer is a full shadow priest in “of the monkey” (agility) green cloths saying “lol” is waste of time and braincells.
August 9, 2010 at 2:40 pm
This isn’t kindergarten where you give someone a toy so they’ll be your friend.
Adam, I have taken your plight to heart and tomorrow I will have a solution. Also I’ll try making random friends, so at least you aren’t alone in your loneliness.
August 9, 2010 at 4:46 pm
and when they realise hes not decked out in heirlooms it will provide entertaining blogs too
also 2/0/3.
Also he seems to be leveling very steadily. It may be difficult to align a group to his pace. (which is slow).
August 10, 2010 at 8:16 am
What’s wrong with my 2/0/3? I’m going discipline. I’m into bondage.
You’re spot on about the levelling slow bit though, I had already considered that this could sabatoge me greatly.
August 9, 2010 at 9:46 am
“healer looking for /LF levelling buddies?” in general?
Although, perhaps, when you hit about level 40, there will be a surprising number of strangers whispering you and asking if you heal – because you are the only priest online of the right level anywhere in the world. And naturally, priests = healing
August 9, 2010 at 12:40 pm
That was actually a pretty touching post. I also remember making friends while looking for help with elite quests and the like. It could be frustrating if you had to look for a long time, but then overcoming the challenge was all the more rewarding in the end.
August 9, 2010 at 2:05 pm
I remember when I played Everquest a while back, the old players lamented the implementation of the “Bazaar” (aka, you set up a “merchant” in an Auction House style sales area). You see, they all remember selling things only using the general chat in a particular tunnel in one of the ingame cities. No auction house back then or anything like that – if you wanted to sell your wares you stood there advertising them like a street merchant in chat. I suppose it feels like the same change that happened in WoW – the LFG tool makes it so that remembering the players you enjoyed leveling with is rather pointless due to the fact that they’re normally on other servers if you used the dungeon tool.
These days when I’m leveling a new character and I want to meet new players, I have simply resigned myself to waiting until I’m 80 and start going through the gearing process. Raids don’t have a LFG function yet so there’s still some community left in pug raids I suppose.
August 9, 2010 at 10:53 pm
I don’t think your macro is cheating, unless you’re whole success criteria is based on random encounters.
What you’re looking for is like minded people. It’s like a dating agency for wow characters… or does that just put you off even more ?
Perhaps that’s where the lfg went wrong, they don’t give enough criteria. Continuing my dating agency analogy, the lfg matches anyone with anyone, which is just a recipe for disaster. What’s needed is an addon that matches compatible people, the wow equivalent of “Non smoking, home owner, looking for…..”
August 10, 2010 at 8:35 am
If they would include a “no morons” button and morons would actually tick it indicating their moronness, then that would be good yes.
August 10, 2010 at 5:07 pm
Problem is that no one recognises their own level of moronity, remember Ogden Nash ?
So the solution is to include a question for the potential companion to answer and they set one for you. Factual, frivolous, whatever, doesn’t matter, just to give you some indication of their compatibility.
Someone who asks your favourite colour is probably a moron.
August 9, 2010 at 10:58 pm
Aww..! This was touching.
*is so tempted to send you a tabard with “not a freak of nature” on it*
This is actually so true.. perhaps come Cata there will be more people around at lower levels to level with?
It’s been a long time since I looked for people to play with – being in social guilds/SAN means I’ve never really had to. But the last time I did, was when I was wanting to kill the same mob as someone else, so suggested we group up instead of waiting for the respawn… we finished the 1000 needles together, and I was persuaded to join their guild. Keep trying and good luck
August 10, 2010 at 8:49 am
A light shade of blue would be best for my taberd.
August 9, 2010 at 11:36 pm
I wish WoW bloggers would stop adding “Tobold said” to their posts.
Not everyone’s opinion has to be “So-&-so is wrong about X, let me tell you why…” Stand on your own 2 feet, people.
August 10, 2010 at 8:49 am
What the fuck?
August 10, 2010 at 9:08 am
found some nice trick luring people onto my flist and me onto theirs:
just talk!
works like a charm… 2 tanks and a bunch if dps… now all i have to do is dont let them lvl away.
most of the time we have to grab us one random… but now i have some people from diffrent realms on my list too and it works when you tell them when to look for a group so that they will come into your group. once they are in dont let them go again
its not the same as bc/vanilla times but i only do dungeons from lvl x0 till lvl x4 (10-14/20-24/…) rest of the time im doing bgs with a frined of mine. warsong rocks as a healdruid with some mage in your backpack. just give me rated bgs and im happy!
and thx for the civ review!
August 10, 2010 at 2:52 pm
uhm… why would you want to make friends inside a video game?!?? Seems pointless to me… just go pwn some n00bs
August 11, 2010 at 7:06 am
You can still make friends by whispering them after a dungeon that you had a good time with them. And it only takes a little effort to get people talking in LFD. Just use the tools and make friends, there’s no problem with that
August 16, 2010 at 2:45 am
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August 16, 2010 at 3:46 am
Ha, too funny! But clearly, the way to find friends is to hang out in Goldshire on Moon Guard.